4 Tips For Easing Parental Anxiety About Child Going to College
Even with summer in full swing, the start of a new school year is just around the corner. If you have a child heading to college for the first time, you’ve both undoubtedly already started to prepare. If they’re moving out for the first time to live in a dorm or apartment while in school, there’s plenty to do to get ready.
While those preparations can serve as a good distraction, the realization that your child is leaving might also be hitting you and causing some anxious thoughts.
It’s perfectly understandable to deal with those uncertainties and worries. However, it’s important to be able to manage them so you can prioritize your own mental health while supporting your child.
With that in mind, let’s look at a few ways you can ease your anxiety about your child going to college.
1. Focus on the Positive
Your child spreading their wings and heading out to further their education is a good thing. While you already know that, it can be easy to forget about the positive things when you’re struggling with anxiety.
Anxious thoughts tend to drill negativity into your mind, making it difficult to focus on anything else. Do what you can to challenge those negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones.
Your child will be getting a great education. They will be able to pursue their interests, passions, and hobbies. They might make lifelong friends. There are so many positive possibilities to consider, so do what you can to shift your mindset.
2. Set Aside Time to Worry
If you know you’re going to worry about your child no matter what, make sure it doesn’t control your entire life.
Consider setting aside time to worry each day for a few minutes. It might sound counterintuitive, but it can actually help you feel more in control and prevent those negative thoughts from taking over. Giving yourself a few minutes each day to “grieve” or focus on those worries can make a big difference in how you feel the rest of the day. You’ll be more focused, positive, and can serve as a greater support system for your child.
3. Lean On Your Support System
Speaking of support, be sure to find some for yourself as well. You’re not the only person going through this right now, and connecting with others who might also be struggling can be a big help.
Consider joining online support groups or connecting with other parents who have gone through the same thing. You’ll see how different people have been able to cope, which can provide some comfort and insight.
If you find that you’re really struggling, don’t hesitate to work with a mental health professional. Things like talk therapy can be an important aspect of self-care. A therapist can help you better understand your anxiety while providing you with strategies to manage your symptoms.
4. Focus On What You Can Control
Anxiety is often fueled by the unknown, and there are plenty of unknowns when it comes to your child leaving for the first time. Instead of focusing on those things, set your mind on the things in your control.
That might mean helping your child with the practical aspects of moving, such as packing with them or ensuring they have the necessary supplies. While it’s important to give them independence and not do everything for them, these small tasks that give you some control can help ease your worries.
If you’re still struggling with anxiety, don’t hesitate to reach out to our office today to set up a consultation. Remember, you’re not alone, and these anxious thoughts don’t have to last forever.
Wellness Matters as a Resource
Please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Carolyn at Wellness Matters specializes in working with the issues that accompany parenting and transition. Feel free to contact us today to set up an appointment. You can connect with the Wellness Matters Intake Coordinator by texting or calling 218) 616-1276
At Wellness Matters, the intake process is all on-line and can be done in less than fifteen minutes. On-line appointments make it possible to attend appointments from the comfort from your home or office. In-person services may also be available for people living in northern MN.
